There are many occasions in life where we choose the easier path or swerve the challenge. Whether it is in the life choices we make or in facing up to a daunting issue, we can allow the want of courage to inhibit us.
The difficulty with courage is two fold, firstly it is not always easy to just dial up our courage and secondly courage without skill can look remarkably like recklessness.
In reality often the most effective solution is to dial up the skill, rather than the courage. Typically the more skillful we can be in addressing a situation the less courage it takes and the more skillful we can be the better the outcome. The easiest way to up skill ourselves is to practice.
So, imagine the scenario, you have a difficult situation with a colleague, client or someone close to you and you want to resolve it. The unskillful response would be to either let it slide, for lack of courage, or to confront the situation with plenty of courage, but a shortage of skill. The alternative is to practice the conversation with someone else, enhance the skill and then to act skillfully, with a minimum of courage required.
My own experience is that if I can enter the conversation in a spirit of open inquiry (rather than having a fixed position), a commitment to mutually satisfactory resolution and get the opening sentence right the rest of the conversation will flow. I might not end up where I expected, but the issue will be resolved.
If it is a particularly challenging conversation and I have practiced it beforehand, I am much less likely to be derailed by any surprises that may come up.
This is true for dealing with negative situations, but it also holds true for making the most of opportunities and helping us to achieve our full potential in all aspects of life.
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