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Inspiring Your Authentic Week

Fear and Happiness

Posted: 24 Sep 2007 03:44 AM CDT

It is a frustrating irony, but very often in life we have to confront our fears if we want what will truly make us happy.

Every day we have opportunities where we face the choice of overcoming our fears or being overcome by them.  Whether it is simply getting up the courage to talk to someone, or making a big life change.  

For the big ones we may even come up with elaborate rationales for inaction that are supremely plausible, to ourselves and others, but actually amount to no more than excuses.

Like many things in life fear can be overcome, with a little understanding and some practice.  The first thing to understand is that not all fears are equal, there are three basic types of fear:

1 – Useful – Useful fears are the ones that protect us from danger or from doing something really stupid.  

2 – Limiting – Limiting fears are very similar to useful fears except that instead of protecting us they hold us back.

3 – Someone else’s – Someone else’s fear is just that – a fear that we have borrowed from someone else.  It may feel very similar to useful or limiting fear, the trouble is that it is just not ours.

Most of the fear we experience are types 2 and 3 and with a little practice and discipline we can begin to tell them from one another.  As soon as you feel the fear rising inside check which one it is.  If it is useful fear then step back – if not keep moving forward until it is.

Fear is an emotion.  Emotions are our bodies way of communicating with our mind.  Emotions connect to our intuition and our intuition is the inherited wisdom of our ancestors encoded in our DNA.

Whenever we feel sad, happy, angry or afraid it is just a piece of communication letting us know if we are heading in the right direction.  Once we can interpret our intuition and our emotions accurately we can use  them as an energetic compass to guide us.

Our intuition is not a substitute for rational thought, it is a complement to it.  To truly connect with our intuition we must create some peace in our lives so that there is space to listen and hear what it is saying.  The next challenge is to interpret it accurately and then to act on it.  It is probably a lifetimes journey to learn to do this 100%, but this is the journey to happiness, fulfilment and meaning.

One way of doing an intensive intuition training camp is to come on the Authentic Transformation Works event in October.  This is three days of exploration of our potential and letting go of that which holds us back from living it.  

Another option is to have your own private course of coaching to work out the answers for you.  

I have found that one of the greatest liberations of my fears has been to be in an unconditionally loving relationship.  If you think that love could be the answer for you you might like to look at the two Love Factory events that are coming up, for couples in January and for singles in February.

In any case – if you want to chat through your challenges and work out the best way forward, I am always happy to have a chat, all we need to do is to book a time.

Happiness is a choice.

with love


neil crofts  – coach, consultant, facilitator
Authentic Transformation – join the evolution
talk – 07775 658534
write – neil@authentictransformation.co.uk
act – www.authentictransformation.co.uk

Past is memory. Future is imagination. Reality lies in the now.

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About Neil Crofts

Writer, coach and consultant on authentic business and authentic leadership. Neil has inspired and motivated hundreds organisations and thousands of individuals to their highest potential. Neil has written three published books and numerous e-books. Neil is a coach, facilitator and consultant helping people and businesses find their authentic purpose and use it to inspire and motivate them to be everything that they can be. Neil has raced cars, been self-employed, run a company and sold it, been employed by large companies, experienced growth and contraction at the heart of the dotcom boom, tried changing companies from the inside and from the outside as European Head of Strategy at internet consultancy/rock band Razorfish. Neil has been independent for over 10 years and delivered his Authentic Leadership message to a diverse range of business audiences including people at BP, Shell, Microsoft, Kraft Foods, MSN, Jamie Oliver, South Gloucestershire Council, National Blood Transfusion Service, KaosPilots Business School, Fashion company By Malene Birger, German technology company Eleven.
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