Fear Free Future


Posted: 19 Dec 2010 11:54 PM PST

Fear is a complex emotion, it can protect us and limit us, it can make us timid and it can make us aggressive. 

Fear evolved for practical reasons. We assess external stimulation for risk, if a situation appears to represent a threat our whole body reacts.

The limbic part of the brain (the oldest, most primitive part closest to the spine) takes control and shuts down access to the cerebral (thinking) part of the brain.

Blood flows to the muscles and heart and away from the brain.

Powerful stimulants and pain-suppressors, endorphins and adrenaline are pumped into our body.

We are ready to fight or escape.

In some ways our emotions struggle to evolve fast enough to cope with our rapidly developing lifestyles. We often appear to struggle to differentiate between situations which require fear as a response and those that require a different and more evolved response.

This misapplication of fear is what limits us or makes us aggressive when we could respond more appropriately and effectively.

Fear in work situations might make us cautious missing opportunities for creativity or innovation, it might make us insecure preventing us from speaking out, it might make us conform rather than challenge an error.

Burmese opposition leader Aung San Suu Kyi observed:

“It is not power that corrupts but fear. Fear of losing power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power corrupts those who are subject to it.”

Fear occurs when we lack the confidence to deal with a situation. This might be perfectly reasonable when we are confronted by a Tiger, but something more subtle and nuanced is required when we are confronted with a challenge that we need to think our way out of rather than fight or run.

Indeed the fear response specifically inhibits our ability to think our way out of a problem. Intense physical activity mimics a lot of the physiological elements of fear – try doing mental arithmetic while exercising hard.

We need to learn to manage our emotions to the extent that we can keep fear under control and maintain our capacity to think, even under stress.

For much of our evolutionary past winter was a fearful time of year. The shortest day was celebrated as it meant the light was returning. The animals were slaughtered providing fresh meat for the celebrations and avoiding the need to feed them during the famine months from January to March.

Many of us are experiencing a dark period in our society. We can choose to respond to that darkness with fear and the consequent aggression or timidity or we can choose not to.

As we celebrate the passing of the darkness this year, let’s make a conscious decision to move from fearful reaction to loving response as much as we can.

We have the choice to move from darkness into the light or into further darkness. Lightness requires us to replace our fear with love. Further fear will lead to deeper darkness.

If you are afraid of the dark, live with light and love, not fear.

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Neil Crofts
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About Neil Crofts

Writer, coach and consultant on authentic business and authentic leadership. Neil has inspired and motivated hundreds organisations and thousands of individuals to their highest potential. Neil has written three published books and numerous e-books. Neil is a coach, facilitator and consultant helping people and businesses find their authentic purpose and use it to inspire and motivate them to be everything that they can be. Neil has raced cars, been self-employed, run a company and sold it, been employed by large companies, experienced growth and contraction at the heart of the dotcom boom, tried changing companies from the inside and from the outside as European Head of Strategy at internet consultancy/rock band Razorfish. Neil has been independent for over 10 years and delivered his Authentic Leadership message to a diverse range of business audiences including people at BP, Shell, Microsoft, Kraft Foods, MSN, Jamie Oliver, South Gloucestershire Council, National Blood Transfusion Service, KaosPilots Business School, Fashion company By Malene Birger, German technology company Eleven.
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